Until it's happened to you, you can never know how horrible it is to truly have your heart broken by someone that you care about. Whether it's the end of a relationship, or you've just found out that they just don't feel the same, they may as well have taken all of your emotions and shoved them in a blender. And then just poked you in the eye or something for a bit of extra pain.
Right now it probably feels like things are pretty terrible and that's okay. Give yourself as long as it takes to heal, and take some time out to piece yourself back together. One thing that really helps is reading great books to take your mind off the whole horrible thing.
Here's 14 books that'll help to mend your broken heart - whether you're wanting relatable fiction break up books, inspiring advice or something dark and COMPLETELY unromantic.Part One:
1. An Abundance of Katherines by John Green
When child prodigy Colin is dumped by his girlfriend straight after graduation (the 19th Katherine to go with the other 18 he's dated), he allows himself to be dragged off on a road trip to Tennessee, convinced along the way that he can work out a math theorem that predicts the duration of relationships. It'll not only put a smile back on your face, but it's full of important messages about moving on and seeing the logic in everything bad that happens to you through life.
2. We Are All Made of Molecules by Susin Nielsen
If the thought of reading something about dating makes you want to poke yourself in the eye right now, try something that focuses on the importance of other close relationships. Stewart and Ashley's worlds are about to collide when Stewart and his dad move in with Ashley and her mom. They're nothing alike and yet they have one thing in common: they - like everyone else - are made of molecules. A good reminder that you never know whose path you'll cross one day.
3. The Boyfriend List by E. Lockhart
Ruby's shrink asks her to write down all the boyfriends, kind-of boyfriends, almost-boyfriends, rumoured boyfriends and wished-he-were boyfriends. This might sound weird, but in the same ten days Roo lost her boyfriend (boy #13); lost her best friend; learned gory details about her now ex-boyfriends's sexual adventures; did something shockingly advanced with boy #15; had an argument with boy #14 and that's just the beginning. If you're constantly THIS close to sending him/her a desperate text and you need a quick reality check, read this one.
4. The Perks of Being A Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky
High school is hard, but it's harder when the girl you love has placed you in the friend-zone. That's how it is for Charlie, but he makes the best of it. He finally finds a group of friends who accept him for who he is, show him how to enjoy the little things, and who tell him that love isn't everything. School isn't all about finding "love"- it's about our best friends, and Charlie's, who show us what it's really all about. Don't sweat it, the little things are what matter most.
5. To All The Boys Ive Loved Before by Jenny Han
Lara Jean has never openly admitted her crushes, but instead wrote each boy a letter about how she felt, sealed it, and hid it in a box under her bed. But one day, her secret box of letters has been mailed, causing all her crushes from her past to confront her about the letters: her first kiss, the boy from summer camp, even her sister's ex-boyfriend, Josh. As she learns to deal with her past loves face to face, Lara Jean discovers that something good may come out of these letters after all. "I don't have to be so afraid of good-bye, because good-bye doesn't have to be forever."
6. Never Google Heartbreak by Emma Garcia
The chances are you MIGHT have found this page by doing exactly what this book tells you not to do. Confronted by tales of misery after her own breakup, Viv decides to set-up her own self-help website for the broken-hearted. But as Viv passes through the three essential stages of grief (denial, vodka, disastrous haircut), she becomes determined that it's not too late to try and get Rob back. What's the craziest thing you'll do for love?
7. 30 Days to Getting over the Dork You Used to Call Your Boyfriend: A Heartbreak Handbook by Clea Hantman
BEING DUMPED HURTS. But you know what? It happens to everyone. The part you might not believe is that no matter how brutally your heart's been broken, those wounds will heal. But the longer you dwell on the dork, the longer your heart will remain cracked. This one guides you one day at a time, 30 days in a row - and along the way, you may just discover something marvellous and surprising about yourself. (Side note: Do NOT start blaming yourself if it takes way longer than 30 days to mend your heart, okay?)
8. The Break Up Bible by Melissa Kantor
Everything is perfect for Jen until Max says, "Maybe it would be better if we were just friends." In shock and total denial, her misery only intensifies when her grandmother gives her a book that she heard about. Dr. Emerson's The Breakup Bible claims that "there's no reason a woman can't get over a breakup very quickly if she'll just follow a few basic commandments." It's a heartwarming fiction book, but it's also full of great advice that you'll be able to take on board
9. Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn
Absolutely cannot handle reading about a YA fiction style, lovey dovey romance right now? Try this. Amy and Nick are married for five years, but there is not much harmony left. All of a sudden, Amy is missing, and we can't really tell you much else without risking some major spoilers. It's a dark, gripping thriller focused on revenge in relationships, and we would definitely NOT call this one a love story.
10. Half Bad by Sally Green
Something else completely unrelated to romance or break ups, because honestly - WHO wants to read about a Happy Ever After love story when you've just had your heart broken? No thank you. If you just want something to take your mind off life and for you to get obsessed with, there's a whole series of these for you to get lost in. It's a dark and gritty tale of Nathan, born a half white and half black witch. Black witches are considered evil and are continuously hunted down by the white witches who are supposed to be the good witches. IT'S JUST GOOD, and a break from all the 'you'll be okay no matter what' soppy crap.
11. The Harry Potter books by JK Rowling
Or whatever your ultimate favourite is. Trust us, there's nothing more comforting than revisiting the books you used to love. And don't forget: "Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light."
12. #GirlBoss by Sophia Amourouso
Different, but hear us out. Sophia Amourouso spent her teens hitch hiking, committing petty theft, and dumpster diving, but after years of struggling, she promised herself that she could overcome her difficult start. Moving on and finding success in anything you want to do is about trusting your instincts and following your gut, knowing which rules to follow and which to break. Inspiring, motivating and empowering, #Girlboss will give you the kick up the ass you need to reach your potential, follow your dreams and get back to the old you. You really do have the power to do anything.
13. Everything Everything by Nicola Yoon
If you're at the stage of just needing to cry and cry and cry, this one will help. My disease is as rare as it is famous. Maddy is basically allergic to the world and hasn't left my house in seventeen years. But then one day, a moving truck arrives next door and she sees him. Maybe we can't predict the future, but we can predict some things - for example, she's certainly going to fall in love with Olly, and it's almost certainly going to be a disaster.
14. Moth Girls Anne Cassidy
Another dark one if you need to keep away from romance. Helplessly drawn like moths to the light, two girls go missing. They called them the Moth Girls because they were attracted to the house. They were drawn to it. Or at least that is what is written in the newspapers that Mandy reads on the anniversary of when her two best friends went missing. As Mandy's memories of the disappearance of her two friends are ignited once again, disturbing details will resurface in her mind. NO PERFECT LOVE STORY HERE, hooray.
Gonna give any of these a read? Also just FYI, he/she was absolutely not worthy of you and you are going to be FINE and GREAT and WONDERFUL. We still love you.
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