The course of true love never did run smooth, and going through a big break up can be one of the hardest things to put yourself through emotionally. After all the heartbreak, ice cream eating, snotty crying and contemplating joining a nunnery, sometimes the temptation to rekindle the past and get back with your ex is just TOO MUCH.
For some couples like Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth, it's a great idea and they're just meant to be tbh, but for others like Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez for example, it's pretty much the WORST thing you can do, and only leads to yet more drama. Sigh.
Either way, the feeling of getting back with your ex is something you'll only understand if you've done it yourself, so here's 11 things you'll feel if you've been there before.
1. The paranoia that will now control your whole mind for the rest of time.
The thought that they might just doing this 'cos they feel guilty for last time. The idea that they could turn around and break up with you again at any moment. The chance that they're still unhappy and just getting on with it 'cos they're too scared to say anything. ALL THAT GOOD STUFF.
2. The dread of having to tell everyone you're back together.
Seeing as they've already witnessed you cry your eyes out over this person and swear that you'd never go back there, you're now doing exactly that, so it's probably not going to go down too well. Gulp.
3. The secret judgement from your friends.
It's girl and boy code that when your friend breaks up with someone, you call 'em every insult under the sun and reveal that you never thought they were good enough anyway and always thought he/she was a bit of a loser actually. So that's awkward now that you're back with said loser. Except a whole lot of eye rolling.
4. The guilt of making your mum age about 30 years.
All she wants is to see you settle down with a nice boy/girl who treats you nicely, worships the ground you walk on and doesn't mess you around. Getting back with an ex suggests that one of those things isn't happening, so the chances are your mum/dad/guardian probably HATES this whole situation and is constantly stressing about it. AND IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT.
5. The fact that nothing is the same and it's all tainted.
Oh look at this lovely time we're having. Oh look at all this cute kissing we're doing on Instagram, and oh LOOK at how we're truly, madly, deeply in love Savage Garden style. Except for the fact that when you look back on the past, memories just blend into that time you ripped my heart out, stamped on it and chucked it in the Nutri Bullet. But let's just pretend that didn't happen yeah? Yeah.
6. The not so great that it has on your self esteem.
HOORAY we're back together - but why did we actually break up though? Was it all because of me? Am I a really crap boyfriend/girlfriend? Is it because you hate my nose and think my bum is the size of two mini planets? Do you think I'm annoying and now you're just back with me out of guilt for being mean to me the first time? Oh gaaaahd.
7. Wondering whether this is technically a new relationship or just the old one again.
Right, so we're starting again. Except the first time around, we'd been together three years and I was kinda thinking about moving in with you one of these days. So now are we back to being together for three years and LONG TERM LOVERS, or actually nineteen days in to a brand new relationship? Well this is confusing.
8. The feeling of just NEEDING to try again and see.
A bit like when someone tells you not to put mentos in coke, sometimes you just have to learn these brutal life lessons for yourself. Rather than living the next fifty years with the nagging possibilites and wondering 'what if...', it's SURELY got to be worth giving it a go and finding out whether you're truly meant to be or not. If it goes tits up, then at least we'll know.
9. Constantly using it against each other in arguments.
Oh everyone has bickery little fights - that's no biggie. But things can get pretty brutal when you've split and then got back together. "DO YOU EVEN WANT TO BE WITH ME" and "WELL YOU CHEATED LAST TIME" can get chucked around if it all gets a bit heated, and that is just not cool to hear from someone you care about.
10. The feeling of slipping back into old ways really easily.
You get back together on the agreement that you'll make more effort with one another, listen to one another more, make each other happier and try harder with the relationship. But errr... actually, you're spending your Saturday night on your laptop with headphones in, while he/she is on the Playstation and X Factor is on in the background. So errr, this is going well then.
11. That they were probably an ex for a reason.
Of course, there are some exceptions to this one because sometimes even soul mates need a bit of a break. But let's face it, if they didn't realise how fab you are the first time, why are you giving them a second? NUH UH HONEY.